The one thing I hear from every client is, “I feel like I have too much to do and not enough time!”
Do you feel burnt-out, frustrated, overwhelmed, like you’re doing as much as you can, but at the same time you’re still behind the eight ball, not feeling you’re at all, where you want to be in life.
When we get into our 40’s we should be experiencing that state of flow that comes from being in control of our lives. We should feel strong, healthy, and vibrant every day, but unfortunately, there are only a certain few that are living that life... while the vast majority are frustrated, asking the question, “how do I design my life, so I live in a state of confidence, ease, and flow every day?”
Avoiding burnout and living in a state where you feel like you're at the top of your game is exactly what I show people how to do. I lived at the bottom for many years before I made the decision to take my life back, and once I did, once I fully made the commitment, I felt like I was unstoppable.
And let me tell you this up front. It’s not as hard as people think. It’s possible to live your best life. But you will have to change the way you think about certain things, which is a small price to pay to live the life you deserve.
If life is becoming unsustainable and it’s burning you out, then stay with me for a for a bit longer because the clients I work with, individuals typically over the age 40, who feel like burnout and frustration is completely taking over their lives... that’s the people I love helping.
I help them design a plan, with an easy-to-follow structure, so they can get their life back the way they want it, on their terms... and I can do the same thing for you.
If you’re new here, or we haven’t met, my name is David Girrbach, I’m a transformational life coach and a speaker and I work with individuals, over the age of 40, helping them to reverse or even eliminate the effects of stress, frustration, burn out, and the negative patterns that destroy their full potential.
I want to back up so I can give you an idea of where I came from.
1996 was when I left home and I had it in my mind that I going to create the greatest life I had ever lived. That dream life that we all desire. Even though I set out with the best of intentions, the reality was that I just wasn’t ready for what life was going to throw at me, and that was my first and probably biggest lesson! A lesson I pass on to every person I work with... We are never going to be “ready” for what life is going to deal us, so just understand and accept that, and go for the best anyway, even if you're not ready.
Then if we move forward ten years to 2006 I found myself homeless, living in my truck, with basically nowhere else to go. That was my second great lesson in life because it helped me to understand that you can have good intentions, you can be a smart person, but none of that matters more than the simple law that your actions will give you a certain result, and there’s no way around it. It didn’t matter how I felt or what I wanted; none of that mattered more than my actions and it became impossible to ignore my reality.
Then if we fast forward another 10 years to 2016, I’m drinking too much and fighting with alcoholism, I’m in the middle of a divorce, I’m broke financially and every other way, and my Doberman Angus, who’s pretty much the only one that loves me, dies on a Tuesday morning.
If you’ve been through any life circumstances like that, you’ll agree that there comes a point where every alarm in your mind and body starts ringing simultaneously that your life is completely f*cked up and something has to change.
It took me longer to realize it, but the important thing is that 20-year chuck of time was the reason why I’m helping people today. Now a few years before that catastrophic series of events in 2013 I come across a book called, “The Way of the Seal” by Mark Divine. This book had so many tools and exercises and intriguing stories of Navy Seals and how they overcame the battles and struggles of “HELL WEEK” which if you’re unfamiliar with, is the 7-day crucible test of a Navy Seals mental fortitude and physical strength.
The importance of finding that book was the rebirthing of my “growth mindset.” It was the rebirthing of the attitude that says, “This is my life, I must take control and responsibility for it, PERIOD. No more excuses!”
That book led me to Coach Mark Divine’s Unbeatable Mind Foundation course which inspired me to become an Unbeatable Mind Coach.
When I turned my life around, my purpose evolved into giving back the gift, the same way it was given me. We have a slogan in AA that says, “you can’t keep it unless you give it away” and that principle drives me forward and keeps me grateful through any tough time I experience.
In life we have a choice; we can give up control and fall into the pity victim mentality or we can prepare ourselves to the best of our ability. You can let your personal experiences destroy you or you can turn them into a power that will make you unstoppable.
When I read the book “Way of the Seal” I could not ignore one dominating thought. My thought was if the principles, practices, and mindsets, in this book can help these guys make it through “hell week” (one of the most difficult challenges any human could ever face) then what would they do for others who are facing challenges; a CEO of multimillion-dollar company, leaders of sports organizations, people facing personal struggles, or even parents raising their kids who just want to be the best role model possible.
That’s what I do as a member of the Unbeatable Mind coaching program.
It is the foundation of my transformation and life coaching practice. Teaching individuals over 40 to take back control of their lives and become better leaders, so they can feel unstoppable no matter what happens in their life.
What's the Cost of Living Stressful Life
The people who continue to live in stress are taking a huge risk. The penalty isn’t always death; sometimes it’s a slow and painful decay. Stress creates illness in your body and your physical health.
I worked with a man who was intelligent and ran a successful business that stood the test of time for over 27 years. All his employees loved working for him. He was truly a great employer. He had success, he had money, he had growth, and a great team but lost his health to cancer and within a year he was gone.
All his money could not reverse the damage the cancer had done.
If you have your health, you can always get more money, but once you lose your health, money or anything else won’t matter. If you don’t destress, work on yourself, and take care of your body, this is a risk you’re taking. It’s important to count the cost of stress.
It’s also important to look at the cause of stress in your life. Is it your health, is it work, are you struggling to deal with things emotionally, is it a money problem? If your life was perfect, how would it be different than the life you're living right now? Take a moment to think about it.
One lady says, “I feel like I’m out of energy every day and it’s wearing on me emotionally. I just cant take living like this.”
A man says, “I've got money, I'm financially secure but I just don’t feel fulfilled. Something is missing in my life.”
Clients tell me, “i just don’t feel calm and centered in my life and I have a hard time sitting still. I never feel like I'm relaxed and at peace.”
Developing Your Ideal Life Vision
As a life coach, helping individuals, over the age of 40, avoid burnout, reduce stress, and start living the life they choose to live it’s very important to have a crystal-clear picture of the life you want to live.
What you want your life to be?
What's your perfect picture?
This is not the life society or anyone else tries to dictate to you. It’s your life, your picture, your choice.
Unbeatable Mind Coaching
The basis of the Unbeatable Mind foundation is this; we’re looking to develop the whole person (body, mind, and spirit) through integrated development, through awareness and training of the 5 mountains (I’m going to explain the 5 mountains in more detail here in a minute)
Here’s what we’re going to dive into deeply as we go into the program.
We start with detailed 5 mountain assessment, so we have the perfect picture of your starting point, and we can identify and measure growth moving forward. Tony Robbins is right when he says, “what gets measured, gets done.”
We need to establish a metric for every area of growth, so when we look back, we can see how far we’ve come. In the Unbeatable Mind, the 5 mountains are the way see ourselves and provide the metric for what we call “whole person” development. The 5 mountains are the physical, mental, emotional, intuitional, and Kokoro – a Japanese term we use that refers to “warrior spirit.” Warrior spirit translates to heart and mind merged in action. We are always seeking perfect alignment of body, mind, and spirit in every activity we engage in.
We optimize the 6 pillars for successful health. The six pillars are how we measure the progress of your 5-mountain training plan.
Then, we will look at your purpose. If you have not discovered your purpose, we’ll start on a 3 P Exercise which defines your passion, purpose, and principles. The 3 P exercise aligns your passion, purpose, and principle’s and determines your mission and “one thing” which is essential for us to move forward. We use your mission and “one thing” as a guide toward supporting activities.
You will develop the habit of learning to “win in the mind” every day, before you go out into life, so you have the confidence and certainty that your day will be a success. Most people go out into theirlife, without thinking, and just hope external factors will work out in their favor. Hoping I the opposite of winning in the mind.
We will learn specific practices to “feed courage and starve fear.” We have strategies to interrupt negative thought patterns and limiting beliefs. At the end of the day, we go over what went well and what can be done better tomorrow. This practice gives control back. You feel great about yourself when you practice feeding courage and realize there is no failure only feedback. When negative thoughts or situations arise, you can promptly deal with them and feel good about yourself and your skill.
We will expand conscious awareness and skills in leadership through the “5 Plateau's.”
All these practices will help you develop more mental clarity and help you to build better teams and leadership skills.
And that’s just the beginning of the journey...